In today’s culture we seem to be constantly inundated with anti-aging advice, along with ideas on how to stop the aging process. Let’s be clear about this … you cannot stop aging. You can slow it down, but that’s as good as it gets.
In my quest to find something that will work for us all, I regularly chat to many many women over 50. Some are aging well and some not so … Most of them have not yet found their Me First attitude
The difference between the two ends of the spectrum is ATTITUDE. No matter what skin care or beauty treatment is on offer the biggest advantage you can give yourself in the aging younger sakes is to adopt the right Attitude. An Attitude that will help you abandon the three most damaging things we saddle ourselves with …
What are they? I hear you ask …
The Top 3 things to abandon are …
Hanging on to friends/acquaintances/family
The #1 reason we do this is usually fear-based. The fear of being alone. It’s a legitimate and understandable fear, especially as we age. But fear does nothing for your attitude and especially does nothing for you.
I’m actually talking about family who find it hard to acknowledge your existence and friends who no longer share your values. There isn’t a bridge anywhere that can span the chasm between you and these people. Even conversation is difficult.
It can sometimes feel similar to being a child or a teenager. We measure, and are measured, by the number of people in our circle. Why? What difference does it make to our lives? Does it really matter if you have 25 friends on Facebook or 25,000? No … unless you’re in business.
Take a long hard look at the people around you. How many are hangers-on and how many contribute to your well-being. Because once you reach a certain age, anybody/everybody in your life needs to contribute; we no longer have the luxury of time to spend on those who continue to take and offer nothing in return …
Worrying about what others think
I always remember my Grandmother saying “While they’re talking about you, they’re leaving somebody else alone”. A pithy grandma-like-statement that rings truer than true the older I get. Such a pity we don’t understand this when we’re young. And why do so few of us not have the attitude our Grandmas had?!
We all understand that while we’re busy worrying about what others think of us, of our dress, of our behaviour, of our hair, they’re actually busy getting on with their own little lives. In other words, we credit them with way too much interest in anybody other than themselves!
It’s amazing, when you truly reach this realisation, the difference it makes to you, your life and your attitude.
Stop keeping things for “best”
We are here for so little time, use everything! You don’t even know if the day will come when you can use your best. What if that day never comes?! PLEASE … don’t save anything. Except money … it’s always helpful to have a stash of saved money.
If you really can’t bring yourself to use the silk scarf that’s been sitting in your drawer wrapped in tissue paper for longer than you care to remember, ask yourself “who am I saving this for”? If you want it to go to someone special when you die add a clause in your will; the beneficiary will treasure the scarf as you have. Or not … you just don’t know!
If you love it … wear it, use it or give it to someone else who loves it … Experience the joy of something that is quite simply, well, joyful!
Always remember …
Nobody is perfect and nobody is completely happy with themselves; you’re not alone in that. But, if you truly believe that to be kind is better than to be right, you’re on the right track to finding your forevermore attitude!
